Several days ago (maybe a week ago...I have no concept of time...), I read a newspaper story about some SIXTH GRADERS, two boys and two girls, who exchanged nude pictures via a cell phone during school. Actually, just the girls sent pictures of themselves. One took the boy's phone into the bathroom, took the pictures and gave it back. Cell phones are not allowed in schools down here, which really was what the story revolved around. One of the closing comments, given by the police chief, said that parents have to realize that when they give they're teenagers a cell phone, they're probably going to get into trouble with it.
Are you kidding me?!?!
If your kids did that, what would be more upsetting to you? That they took the cell phone to school when they weren't supposed to or that your daughter took NUDE PICTURES of herself, WILLINGLY, and shared them with a boy and, therefore, every other boy in her grade. Think, people, think!
Not only does this story tell me what little self-esteem those girls have, but it also tells me what little respect those boys have for women. Both of those things are developed at home...not at school.
Yesterday at Wal-Mart, I saw a pregnant teenager shopping with her mother. I wanted to cry. I immediately thought about that story I read in the paper. What do you think the chances are that those girls wind up pregnant or graduate with an STD? The world has absolutely no respect for sex. I'm worried about what parents are teaching their kids. I read that one mom actually...conciously...left the sex education of her daughter up to the local school. Her 14-year-old actually thought that she couldn't get pregnant if she held an aspirin between her knees...because that's what her dad told her. GOLLY!
It is so natural for teens to be interested in sex, and that's fine. Those raging hormones insure survival of the human race. However, there is a time and a place for everything. If a person doesn't have control over his or her emotions and physical urges, then chances are that person isn't ready for sex anyway.
So, I've made up my mind that my kids will get a serious sex talk when it is time. I will (try to) patiently explain why they need to wait until marriage touching on physical, emotional and spiritual reasons. When I'm done, Aubrey will back me up by saying to our girls, "Do it and I'll kill you," and to our boys, "Touch a girl and it's over." Then he'll meet every date at the door with the purple softball bat we have in our hall closet.
6 comments:
Amen! I'm in total agreement with you. And you said it much better than I could!
My friends and I were talking about this yesterday - one is a 7th grade teacher and the other who has a good friend who is a teacher said that two 6th graders (what is it with sixth grade? I think I still half played with Barbies in 6th grade!) were caught HAVING SEX AT SCHOOL.
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I really don't know how you can convince people to actually parent their children...
You know a study came out here in Missouri that 1 out of 4 girls has an STD, namely chymidia (sp) an HPV. 1 out of 4! Isabel is getting the sex talk when she turn 3. I figure that way I won't have to worry if I've started to late. It seems that waiting until they start school at age 6 or 7 is too late...what happened to letting kids have a childhood...let them be kids. Where is society going...
I totally agree with everyone's comments. It is terrifying to think that a girl believes that she has to give up a part of her just to be 'normal'. (Considering this type of behavior is becoming the saddest form of normal). It is not even pressure to be popular anymore, it is just the thing that is done. I know that we all become a little desensitized to a great many things as we age, but it should be done AS WE AGE. Not as a child. There is a loss of wonder & that word 'innocence' is becoming obsolete once a child can walk & talk. I was raised in a small Alabama town-where everyone knows you so the pressure to fit in is a little different. You fit in by default its just what you do while you fit in that makes you infamous.I was lucky, my parents were very open & honest with me, thanks to their honesty I handled a great many situations better than some of my closest friends. Thanks to that open communication & the values that they held dear I made a personal decision much later in life that most people would be surprised to know. That 'at home' theory can work, but I don't believe it is simple. Being an example to the kid is much more effective than just "the talk". The talk is uncomfortable but necessary, though I feel seeing respect between a mother & father impacts much more than the talk. I thank God that my parents loved each other & us enough to be that kind of example. I was also blessed to find a soulmate that respected me. If ever I have children I hope to be an example like the one before me. It is so sad & disturbing to hear these stories & realize they have become reality.
Amen! The best way for kids to learn behavior is from parents. Aubrey treats me the way his dad treats his mom (which is good!) so I can definitely see where setting a good example pays off for a child and his/her relationships.
Oh that's just awful!
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